©2018 by Jo Vinall Counselling

PREGNANCY AND INFANT LOSS

I have never experienced the devastating impact of pregnancy or infant loss, so I can never know exactly how you feel. However, my training with The Foundation for Infant Loss Training has given me a real insight into miscarriage, neonatal death, still birth and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SID) along with the horrendous, traumatic and heart destroying experiences parents go through when their baby dies in this way.

I can support parents through their healing journey, allowing you to talk openly about your traumatic experience as much as you need to, and without needing to put on a ‘brave face’. I hope you will feel less alone by doing so.

 

I understand that pregnancy and infant loss can bring up a range of feelings such as guilt, anger, jealousy and emptiness. I can help you work through these feelings.

It would be honour for me to provide you with support during this shattering and painful time.

MISCARRIAGE

More than 1 in 5 pregnancies in the UK, will sadly end in miscarriage.

 

It therefore saddens me that miscarriage is still known as the ‘silent grief’; most likely due to our society norm that it’s best to keep a pregnancy quiet for the first 12 weeks or so, so if there is a pregnancy loss, others will be none the wiser.

 

Some will welcome the chance to deal with it by themselves, and in their own way which is of course fine. Some, however, may need to talk openly about, and process their loss. Just like with any bereavement there is no right, or wrong way to grieve. 

 

I can offer you the space where you can talk about:

 

  • What your baby meant to you, along with the plans, hopes and dreams you had for your little one.

  • Your experience of your devastating, and perhaps traumatic, miscarriage.

  • How this experience has impacted your relationship (s)

  • Your concerns about being pregnant again - or perhaps you are already pregnant and anxious about a recurrent miscarriage

  • How you are struggling to cope; perhaps you are drinking too much, but don’t know how else to cope with how your feeling
     

In this space, you do not have to worry about burdening your friends or family; or worry about people’s insensitive comments (even though they mean well)

 

No matter how far you were in your pregnancy, all of the above and whatever else you choose to bring, deserves attention.

INFANT LOSS

No parent should ever have to go through the devasting experience of infant loss. It doesn’t make any sense, as it goes against the natural order of life. It’s illogical.

 

Losing your little one may have happened recently or perhaps not so recently. To me that doesn’t matter, as I am here to support you through this devastating experience.

 

I can offer you a space where you can talk:

 

  • About your baby as much as you want to. Where you are more than welcome to share your memoires along with any photos, videos and memory box. I believe that a baby who has died from still birth, neonatal loss or Sudden Infant death Syndrome (SIDS) deserves to be talked about and cooed over just like any other baby.

  • Openly about your experience of when your baby died. Perhaps you are angry at how you were treated by professionals, or you may have regrets about the choices you made at the time.

  • About how this experience has impacted your relationship (s)

  • About how you are struggling to cope.  Perhaps you are drinking too much, but don’t know how else to cope with how your feeling. Perhaps you are pregnant after experiencing an infant loss and are facing an ‘emotional roller-coaster’ of feelings such as guilt and fear

 

In this space, you do not have to worry about burdening your friends or family; or worry about people’s insensitive comments (even though they mean well_

 

All of the above and whatever else you would like to bring to our session is welcomed.

GET IN TOUCH

I practice from my cottage in heart of Flackwell Heath village, within High Wycombe. Parking is available.

I will confirm my address when you book your first session.

07739 556784