PREGNANCY AND INFANT LOSS
My training with The Foundation for Infant Loss Training has given me a real insight into miscarriage, neonatal death, still birth and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SID) along with the horrendous, traumatic and heart destroying experiences parents go through when their baby dies in this way.
I can support parents through their healing journey, allowing them to talk openly about the traumatic experience as much as they need to, and without the need to put on a ‘brave face’.
I understand that pregnancy and infant loss can bring up a range of feelings such as guilt, anger, jealousy and emptiness. I help clients work through these feelings.
MISCARRIAGE
Sadly, more than 1 in 5 pregnancies in the UK will end in miscarriage.
It upsets me that miscarriage is still known as the ‘silent grief’. Many societies encourage us to keep a pregnancy quiet for the first 12 weeks so if there is a pregnancy loss, others will be unaware.
Some will welcome the chance to deal with it by themselves, and in their own way, which is of course fine. However, others may need to talk openly and process their loss. Just like with any bereavement there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
I offer clients the space to talk about:
What a baby meant to them, along with the plans, hopes and dreams they had for their little one
The experience of the devastating, and perhaps traumatic, miscarriage
How the experience has impacted their relationships
Their concerns about being pregnant again - or perhaps they are already pregnant and anxious about a recurrent miscarriage
How they are struggling to cope.
In this space, clients do not have to worry about burdening friends or family; or worry about people’s insensitive comments,
No matter how far along in a pregnancy, all of the above deserves attention.
INFANT LOSS
No parent should ever have to go through the devastating experience of infant loss. It doesn’t make any sense, as it seems to go against the natural order of life. It can feel so illogical.
Losing a little one may have happened recently or perhaps not so recently. To me that doesn’t matter, as I am here to support clients through this devastating experience.
I offer you a space where clients can talk:
About their baby as much as they want to. Clients are welcome to share memories, photos and videos. I believe that a baby who has died from still birth, neonatal loss or Sudden Infant death Syndrome (SIDS) deserves to be talked about and cooed over just like any other baby
Openly about their experience of when their baby died. They may be angry at how they were treated by professionals, or regrets about the choices they made at the time
About how this experience has impacted their relationships
About how they are struggling to cope
About the ‘emotional roller-coaster’ of feelings such as guilt and fear that may be present if they become pregnant again.